I think I... gained mine?
I was a weird, antisocial kid who was bullied quite a bit, and I went right on being weird and antisocial well into adulthood. Then I did psychedelics, and I went from being an odd introvert with no social life to being a less-odd introvert with a thriving social life who gets laid all the time and is confident enough to hold a conversation with anyone.
Thanks, LSD!