“Master, if I spend years crafting the exact right gender identity for myself, can I overcome my gender-related suffering?”
You can overcome your gender-related suffering right now, merely by abandoning your desire for the exact right gender identity.
“I don’t understand”
Empty yourself of desire for gender identity.
“You mean, transition to being a nonbinary genderqueer person?”
No, if you transition to being a nonbinary genderqueer person you are further than ever from being empty.
“So just *socially* transition to being a nonbinary genderqueer person?”
You do not need to transition! I say unto you that your gender is *already* empty, right now.
“I don’t get it! What if I spent twenty years reading Judith Butler books, then will I understand?”
Judith Butler is a hindrance. If you seek it, you are turning away from it. If you meet the Butler on the road, kill her.
“Now you’re just being facetious. Figuring out your relationship with your gender identity is actually a really complicated process. If you don’t read the teachings, and you don’t try really hard, how can you succeed?”
Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin. Yet I say unto you, that even Solomon in all his glory was not as correctly gendered as one of these.